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The lessons I learnt.

                       The year-end sees many of us turning into  philosophers, reflecting on the days gone by and realising that the stumbling blocks that paved our way were the lessons that life was trying to teach us! As the curtain goes down on the receding year, we look back at the highs and lows we experienced.  Saner and a lot more cautious, we decide to welcome the new year with a wiser brain sitting firmly on our stronger shoulders.
            I, too, played the philosopher, and, much to my astonishment, realised that the  mistakes I made greatly outnumbered those that I considered my successes. Mistakes that have taught me some very important lessons. So, here I am.  “I’m sharing my #TalesOf2015 with BlogAdda.
           
          We humans place  great importance on material wealth. Agreed, that money is necessary for our livelihood. However, it is the heart beats in our lives that sound lovelier and a lot more soothing than the jingle of the coins in our pockets. 'Heart beats' being the number of hearts that beat for us; the people in our life who truly care, and for whom we truly matter. Although, most often, we realise this fact   only when faced with a rough tide. Until then, it is always us entrenched in our greed to accumulate more.
           Now, as time passes by, I feel the need of being surrounded by my  people: my friends and my family. For, what would I do without these gems that I have been  blessed with? Aren't our people our treasure in the truest sense? With whom would we share those rare silent moments, when words seem redundant; those mesmerising sunsets, when all you need is someone to stare at the sky along with; those carefree giggles and those free-flowing tears?  Isn't it time we learnt their importance and gathered our people closer  for a rejuvenating huddle?
          I have also learnt the importance of safeguarding my heart from wear and tear. Really! We have this habit of giving away our heart to all and sundry without a moment's thought about how it will be treated. Seldom do we think about how it can get trampled on by those we give it to. This blood pumping machine is a precious and fragile organ and it comes with a label,"Handle with care', stamped across it in bold letters. But, we fail to read it and in the process end up being damaged goods! So, I have decided on brushing up my reading skills so that I  not only read such important labels, but also  the intentions of people I trust my life with.
         Learning  to let go of grudges, is another lesson I learnt. No, I haven't held grudges, but I have witnessed how a single grudge can ruin the peace of an entire family. We all know how we have little control over what people say and do, but we do have a control over how we react to it. Moreover, don't we ourselves say  hurtful things to our people? And, don't we get forgiven by them? Then, what right do we have to hold bitterness and resentment in our hearts and draw cracks in our relationships?
        It's high time we learnt to let go and move on, forgive and forget and accept our people along with their flaws and strengths. They are our people, after all! Would there be any meaning to our lives without them?  Ridding ourselves of rancour that threatens to rip apart the entire fabric that we have so lovingly sewn together is one resolution that needs to be made and stuck to.
       Also, learning to let go of insecurities and embracing ourselves  along with our blemishes  has been another lesson learnt. We are how we were created by our Creator. We are unique. In this entire world, there is just one of us. Isn't that reason enough to celebrate our selves? Our nature, our personalities, our bodies are all ours to be proud of! Why compare ourselves to others who are not better than us, but merely different from us?  Let's be amazed by ourselves, our achievements, our successes and then see how life smiles with us!
       Sharing love and spreading goodness and warmth around us is what life should be all about. That is what the world will remember us by. Cliched as it may sound, but life is short and uncertain. We may never know, but this may be the last year for some of us! So, why not spend it doing our best for ourselves and for others?
          A quote I like to repeat to myself these days goes like this:
     
         "Life is not about the number of years you have lived, but the number of lives you have touched with your love and goodness."
     Well, that's the kind of life I would like to live.

       Welcome, 2016. I look forward to learning some more from you, too!

       
        

Comments

  1. Lovely lessons and ones we can all learn from. I'm pleased you're letting go of a lot from this year. Reduce stress. That helps a lot. Happy new year, my dear.

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  2. Agree to the lessons learned, Shilpa. Every day is a new lesson and learning from the past mistakes. I will also learn from it and approach things in a different manner. Happy New Year:)

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